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My Membership & Profile
You can do so by clicking on the link "Edit Account" in the "My Account" area of your toolbar. The toolbar is located on the right side of your screen when you're logged in. Be sure to click the "Update" link at the bottom of each page after you make a change.
If you don't remember your password, try logging in to the site with whatever password you believe it might be. If the password is incorrect, you will be shown an error stating your password is incorrect. Along with this error message, you will be given the option to retrieve your password.
To change your password, click on the "Edit Account" in the "My Account" area of your toolbar. The toolbar is located on the right side of your screen when you're logged in. From there, click on the "Login Information" link.
You will be asked for to choose a new password (which you will need to retype a second time to make sure you didn't make a mistake).
In order to best find your match, as well as let your match find you, we ask as much information about your personality and views on life as possible. Think about it this way, if you were going to go on a blind date, you would want to know a bit about the person you're going to go out with... right? This allows us to become the friend who's matching you and your date up, while at the same time giving you thousands of options to pick and choose from.
P.S. Having a photo of yourself (smiling) helps a lot.
There are a number of reasons why something you added to your profile was rejected.
- You used offensive or abusive language
- You didn't fill out the field properly
- You included an email address, phone number or home address (we do not permit this for safety reasons).
Warning! Paid Premium Members if You Deactivate Your Profile You Will Not Be Able to Access Your Account!
If you want to cancel your FREE Non-Paid account, you can proceed to "Deactivate Account" page
Deactivating your account means that no one will be able to see your profile and you will no longer receive messages from any other members.
You can change your email address by going to your "Edit Account" in the "My Account" area of your toolbar. The toolbar is located on the right side of your screen when you're logged in. From there, click on the "Notification Options" link and enter your new email address. Remember to press "Update" after you make the change.
You can change your contact preferences by going to your "Edit Account" in the "My Account" area of your toolbar. The toolbar is located on the right side of your screen when you're logged in. From there, click on the "Contact Preferences" link. Remember to press "Update" after you make changes.
You can change the gender in your profile by going to your "Edit Account" in the "My Account" area of your toolbar. The toolbar is located on the right side of your screen when you're logged in. From there, click on the "Description" link and select the right option from the drop-down. Remember to press "Update" after you make the change.
Some zip codes/postal codes cover more than one city. You can change the city listed in your profile by going to your "Edit Account" in the "My Account" area of your toolbar. The toolbar is located on the right side of your screen when you're logged in. From there, click on the "Description" link. Remember to press "Update" after you make the change.
The basic service is free. With this, you are able to create an account and look around, see if this is something you would like to pay for, and see if there is anyone in your area that you would like to talk to. This is all available before you pay one cent. If you decide that you would like to upgrade, then yes there is a fee.
If your password is not working:
We suggest copying and pasting in your password. Please be sure your browser's cookie settings are no higher than medium-high. Also, try emptying your browser's cookies and temporary files.
If none of these solutions work, or if you simply forgot your password, you can reset it by clicking on “forgot your password?” when you go to sign in on the website. You will be prompted to enter the email address you listed with us. A new password will be send to that email account.
Please be sure to click the Update button at the bottom of each page you complete.
To reactivate your profile account, just log into the site and enter your username and password.
My Photos & Videos
Once you upload a photo and it has been approved (all photos get processed by a member of our Team, which means we might crop the photo or reject it if it's inappropriate for the site), you can select it to be your main photo.
Go to "My Photos" in the "My Account" area of your toolbar. The toolbar is located on the right side of your screen when you're logged in. There, you will see all the photos that you submitted and that have been already approved. Select the one you want to have as your main profile picture. Click "Use this photo as my profile photo". Remember that the photo size has to be at least 200x200 pixels in order to be used as your profile photo. Also keep in mind that it needs to be a picture of you.
Please check to make sure you image size is bigger than 200 width and 230 height. Also the file must be a JPG, GIF, PNG or BMP.
If your image meets the above standards and you are still having problems, please let us know what browser you are using and what error message you are receiving after your attempt to upload the image.
You can send messages to any user on the site if you have a full membership. To send a message you must simply click on "Message", located directly below a member's main photo on the left of your screen (when looking at a given member's profile). Enter the subject, the message body and press "Send".
Any member (basic or full) can send flirts to other users. To send a flirt you simply click on "Flirt", located directly below a member's main photo on the left of your screen (when looking at a given member's profile). You can then choose a flirt from Ice Breakers, Humorous, Passionate or Expressive. Review the selection under each category by clicking on the orange heading. Choose the flirt you want by clicking on it and press "Send".
They are in the inbox, like regular email messages.
To block a user from emailing you, simply click on "Block Member". It's located below a member's main photo on the left of your screen (when looking at a given member's profile). Then, you will have the option of adding a comment which will be viewable to you and the member you want to block. Whether you want to post a message or not, you need to press "Add" to block that member. They will then no longer be able to email you.
Please visit the member's profile and click on "Favorite". It's located below a member's main photo on the left of your screen (when looking at a given member's profile). Then, you will have the option of adding a comment which will be viewable to you and the other member. Whether you want to post a message or not, you need to press "Add" to have that member listed as one of your favorites.
Please visit the member's profile and click on "Favorite". Then, click on "Remove username from favorites", located in the upper portion of the pop-up window. You can also remove a member from your Favorites by going to "My Account". It is located on the right side of your screen when you're logged in. From there, click on the "My Favorites" link, select the member you want to remove and click on "Remove" or "Delete Selected".
To change email notification settings click here
Our Chat rooms are plugged into our system from a third party chat room which already has an established membership base that may already have your username/screenname in use. If your current Cleveland Chat City username is already taken, we will suggest an alternate username that will only be used inside of the chat areas. We apologize for the inconvenience, but it will not have any affect on your normal site interaction.
Membership and Billing
Your free membership will allow you to create a profile, upload photos, search for other singles in your area, and receive/send flirts. We are expanding and adding new features all the time.
On the join form it states, if you do not cancel by the time your 3 day trial ends, your membership will recur to a 30 day membership at $24.99 after the 3 day trial. We apologize if you missed that on the form. Please let us know if you have any further concerns or are unclear about anything.
To view billing history click here
Contact customer support click here
Please be sure your browser's cookie settings are no higher than medium-high. Also, be sure your entries do not contain anything other than letters and standard punctuation marks.
To stop your subscription click here
Please check with your card issuing bank to make sure that they are not blocking the transaction or try a different credit card.
We offer the ability to upgrade your membership by credit card (Visa & MasterCard). We do accept checks and money orders from US and Canadian based members for a one month ($19.99) or 3 months membership only ($39.99). Simply mail in your payment along with your screen name, the name of the site, and the email address used on the profile. We will notify you when the payment has cleared and your profile has been upgraded. Please make all payments in US dollars. Payable and mailed to:
Online Connections Inc
Attn: Chat Upgrades
865 SW 78th Ave
Plantation, FL 33324
We now offer three membership options. $39.99 for three months (our best value), $24.99 for one month, or our new $2.99 3 day trial that rebills at $24.99/month if not cancelled. To enjoy the site to the fullest, just select Upgrade and choose the preferred membership option.
The system will re-bill at the end of the selected paid period. If at any time you want to stop this process, just let us know.
This is how your charge will appear in your credit card statement:
USA: chatmem.com 855-338-5228
Outside USA: chatmem.com 954-944-9054
THE FIRST ONLINE ENCOUNTERS
Be careful about the information you give out. Never supply your last name, outside email address, personal website address, home address, phone number, place of work, or other identifying information in your profile or in your initial emails. If anyone tries to pressure or deceive you into revealing personal information, stop corresponding with them.
AS YOU GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER
Trust your feelings, move cautiously, and choose carefully. As you correspond, be on the lookout for strange behavior or inconsistencies. Ask questions and be sure you are satisfied with the answers. If you think someone is lying, they probably are. Take note of conversation topics. If a person tends to steer the conversation towards unwelcome themes, walk away. Take all the time you need before moving to a more personal relationship.
WHEN THERE'S MUTUAL INTEREST
Photos can help you get a more accurate idea of who someone is. Get pictures of your new friend in different settings at work, at play, etc. Let the other person win your trust gradually. Don't confuse interest with trust. Your new friend should gain your confidence through consistently honorable, forthright behavior. Don't become prematurely personal or intimate with someone. In the desire to find companionship, it is very easy to lead yourself to believe know someone better than you really do, so take your time.
Talking by telephone can give you a better view of your friend's personality, social skills, and character. Call from a pay phone or a phone with Caller ID blocking until there is absolute trust. Listen to the person you are getting to know, and pay close attention to both what they say and what they do. Ask questions and be sure that you are satisfied with the answers.
THINKING ABOUT MEETING IN PERSON
Meet when YOU are ready - do not be pressured into it! Any kind of pressure to meet should be a big red flag to you - do not tolerate it, and don't be afraid to change your mind about meeting. If someone argues about meeting, finds flaws in your thinking, or pressures you, DON'T meet with them. A sensitive person will always understand the risk involved with online dating, and will respect your caution.
Double or group date for your first meeting. Always tell someone where you are going and when you will return, and leave your date's name and phone number with that person. Never have your date pick you up. If you decide mid-date to go somewhere else, drive yourself. Meet in a safe, public place. DO NOT meet in your residence or theirs. Be safe now. There will be time for solitude later.
When meeting outside your area: If you're flying in, make your own transportation and lodging reservations, and keep them to yourself. Don't meet your date at your hotel. If the meeting location chosen seems unsafe or inappropriate to you, go back to your hotel. Always make sure someone knows your plans and has your contact information. If possible, carry a cell phone at all times.
Be concerned if your date never introduces you to colleagues, friends, or family, or if they look very different from photos posted online.
Our site does not install adware. You or someone using your computer visited a site that installed this on your computer. I suggest running LavaSoft AdAware (a free program that removes adware on your computer)
If Ad-Aware does not solve your problem , here are two other free programs to try.
AVG Anti-Virus Free:
AVG Anti-Spyware Free:
The AVG Anti-Virus is quite good but I'm pretty sure the Anti-Spyware one expires after 30 days.
Yes, at this time we are setup to accept members form every country.
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